Posted by on June 11, 2013

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Slow Mail Tuesday Returns!

You don’t have to tell me.

I know that’s true.

Some of my blog posts aren’t so good.

Of course that’s true.

We can’t all write Pulitzer prize material.

So why does it even bother me that someone pointed out that some of my posts aren’t so great? She was actually focusing on the fact that one particular post was pretty good and well-written. Of course, I don’t dwell on that morsel, instead I let the “some aren’t so great” comment peck away at my confidence and give sway to bad feelings, crummy feelings of failure.

Aarghh. I’m not going to be undone here.

In an effort to always be moving forward and learning and growing and using information for my betterment, and to not allow bad feelings to render the negative useless, I shall take this gem of critique and put it to work.

I shall stare down this “bad feeling” that’s plaguing me and mocking me and putting me in the corner.

That’s right, bad feeling. I’m looking at you.

Back off.

Negative comments do not need to put me in a pit of gloom.

So get back “Bad Feeling”. If your purpose is to derail me, then you better start looking for another goal ‘cause this train doesn’t just think it can. She knows she can!

I know I have a lot to learn about writing. That’s really not shocking. The surprising thing is how valuable negative feedback can be. Over the last few months, I’ve learned a little secret about the negative review.

The negative should be traveled through. That means fully voiced, fully listened to, and fully heard.

I shouldn’t go around it. That just makes the journey take a lot longer than it needs to.

I shouldn’t plop down and stay there. That’s not my destination.

I shouldn’t close my eyes and hurry through. There’s stuff to be seen there, stuff to be learned.

The Negative is my stepping stone.

It raises me up.

It may, perhaps, have more of an improving value than the Positive. (Still love the positive, though!)

Because of the negative, I learn how to write just a little bit smarter.

(And yes, for those of you who subscribe and received Sunday’s blog, next time I will proof read one more time and especially check my title for misspelled words!).

Because of the negative, I come to understand what works and what doesn’t.

Its value is immense, and I will not let this “bad feeling” I get keep me from my journey. Instead, I will wrap my arm around you, Mr. Bad Feeling, pull you close, and introduce you to Mrs. Discipline who knows the difference between how I feel and what I believe to be true.


PS…Just so you know, I may not quite be ready for TONS of negative feedback. Baby steps!

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Lori Stanley Roeleveld
11 years ago

This is a brilliant post! You’re so brave.

11 years ago

Okay so why is “bad feeling” a mister and “discipline” a mrs?! I’m offended! :). Just kidding. I am very inspired by your writing and think you are a great writer. And I’m very proud of you

Jimmy B.
Jimmy B.
11 years ago

Some flowers look pretty gloomy, until they bask in the sun and blossom! Bask in the good feelings you can garner by having so many people being blessed by your abilities as a scribe….and also from the fact that each of your posts plants the ‘seed’. I could say God bless you, but will say God has Blessed you with a quick mind and a nimble finger.


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